Introverted Mom, Gift Yourself a Bedroom Retreat
Life is crazy. I mean, there's crazy-good (hard work earns you a bonus, yay!) and there's everyday crazy (Suzy to math club, Billy to practice, Sparky to the vet) and then there's the world today. I don't really need to list examples; I'm pretty sure we're on the same page. And sometimes it feels impossible to get away from.
And you know what, Mama? As introverts, we feel the weight of this even more. I don't want to get you down! It's just what we're up against!
So let's put it out there. Let's give it less power by naming it. And let's talk tools to combat this energy. You deserve a bedroom designed to soothe your sensitive soul, Mama! Because we're going to need that to keep this crazy life of ours going.
An Introverted Mom Bedroom Provides:
End of. Is it possible to even remember what it's like sleeping in? The last weekend I had to myself I still woke up at 7, unable to get back to sleep.
And it's not like we go to bed early. No, we try to squeeze in just one more episode of Game of Thrones this is where Joffrey.... and then we look up and it's 11:15.
Because really It's the time where we get to be completely us. We are free of obligations. And who doesn't want more of that? Even at the expense of sleep/recharging/sanity. So we have to make that sleep time count!
A retreat from the world
Think of it like this. It's an entire room where you can (for a time) shut and lock the metaphorical door. Leave the dishes, and the car troubles and the current political climate (!!!) on the other side and give yourself space to recharge. Mentally and physically. At least for a little while.
A place for intimacy
Whether you share your bedroom with your partner or are on your own, you deserve a place where you can put just your. things. Your special I can't believe I spent this much on a little bottle of hand cream but it's oh so nice lotion. The photo of you and your mom on a beach smiling into the wind. The little things that to you mean a lot.
This entire room should be a place of comfort and intimacy for you. (If you want more on getting a little more va-va-va-voom into your room, I wrote a blog on that here)
Yes! Great! I want this! Um, how do I come up with this introvert bedroom haven?
Introverted mom bedroom plan: Color palette
I'm going to make a statement here. As introverts, we need our bedrooms to be relaxing and recharging. They are not places for bright, punchy colors. LOTS of places are perfect for a big ol' dose of color. But the bedroom? Ain't one of them.
Start with a color you love and take it down like forty notches.
Green is your go-to? Lovely. Slow that down to a muted, light sage. And add in lots of creams.
Speaking of neutrals.....consider them here.
You can always add in throw pillows of a color you love or a picture on the wall. But you can't as easily take the color off the wall. Just consider it.
Because ultimately the bedroom shouldn't be a "rev up your engine" type of place. Well, there's a time and a place for that. But most of the time, it should be a chill and relax type place. And surrounding yourself with soothing colors will help with that.
*An exception to this is the fantastic hygge that Scandinavians incorporate into their bedrooms, but that is a whole other blog to tackle.
Introverted mom bedroom plan: Bedding
There are lots of specifics about thread counts and different fabrics. I've got a handy bedding cheat sheet below with all the details.
But to generalize:
Invest in texture over pattern.
Simple over busy.
And above all washable. I mean, c'mon. A dry cleaning only duvet cover? Isn't realistic in our lives. Less stress! Not more!
Introverted mom bedroom plan: Windows
I'm not going to get all technical and designer-y here. There are curtain rod lengths. And there are puddling/non-puddling debates. But really it boils down to this: light filtering
As introverts, we need a way to calm the senses. To shut out some of the light and chiiilllll. Will your kiddos wake you up at the crack of dawn anyway? Probably. But on the rare occasion that they don't.....enjoy.
Just like with bedding, go with a good nubby texture over a busy pattern.
And make them washable while you're at it. The dust. Shudder.
One more thing is to layer.
The typical light-filtering curtain usually happens to be a boring solid color.
But you can get the same effect with a set of super light gauzy curtains and a set of blinds underneath.
Plus it gives your more mix and match lighting options between just open/closed.
Introverted mom bedroom plan: Lighting
The overhead light. Flat out don't use it. I guess when it's the darkest day in December and you need to get into the back of your closet, yeah. But on the whole, ban it.
Table lamps for the win. And sconces. Heck, throw in some fairy lights for some atmosphere. Just stay away from a light that makes you instinctively squint your eyes. That's not relaxing.
Introverted mom bedroom plan: Organization and storage
Before I lose you here, give me a chance. Yes. There are ways to be uber organized and have your closet look pristine. But that in itself is a project. And sometimes you don't have time for projects.
In bedrooms, the key is out of sight, out of stressed-out mind. Make it look great at the same time! Think nightstands with drawers, baskets, and end of bed trunks.
Introverted mom bedroom plan: you got this, mama!
Believe me. I am not a ray of sunshine blowing rainbows up your butt. I know what things can be like! Don't get caught up in the buzz of everyone else’s “busy”. You'll find yourself completely worn down. The key is to have a room that can restore you. And good bedroom design will absolutely get you that room. So go for it! You're totally worth it.